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malika
Diamond Star
United Arab Emirates
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Posted - 26/10/2005 : 09:55:46 AM
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moncie
Diamond Star
USA
383 Posts |
Posted - 26/10/2005 : 10:00:41 AM
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^^ korek! hahaha
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GeRbEr4aDuLtS
Superstar
1719 Posts |
 Posted - 30/10/2005 : 2:38:56 PM
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share ko lang itong nabasa ko... 
http://news.inq7.net/sunday/index.php?index=2&story_id=50563
The Next Best Girl for Him
First posted 04:32am (Mla time) Sept 18, 2005
By Joe d'Mango
Inquirer News Service
Dear Joe,
I'm the type of person who plans my future. I carefully plan how I reach my goals and make it a point that things fall in the right place. I may have been "gimikera" during my high school and college years, but I managed to keep my grades high. I promised myself not to get involved in any relationship until my last term in college, despite the fact that a lot of guys were trying to win me over.
During my last term in college, I developed a crush on Vince. We were carpooling and I would drive him home because he didn’t have a car. During one of our talks, he mentioned how he loved his Chinese girlfriend at that time. Unfortunately, Vince was not accepted by his girlfriend's family because he was not Chinese, and the girl was forced to leave him.
My best friend, knowing that I liked Vince, did everything to hook us up. When she learned that he broke up with his girl, she firmed up some plans with my consent. Vince and I became classmates in one subject and he started courting me.
After several months of courtship, we ended up together. He was my first boyfriend ever and I was so excited. I was also idealistic. I wanted things to be as perfect as they could be. As they say, when you're in love, you tend to do silly things, which I did. I was supposed to graduate with flying colors, but I chose to spend more time with Vince. I dropped one subject and extended my stay in school. I gave all my love and sweetness to him, but things didn't turn out as expected.
I remembered the first time that Vince, his ex-GF and I went to a party. He never bothered to introduce me to his ex as his current girl, nor did he show in any way that we’re a couple. I later learned that he and his ex were still writing each other and talking on the phone. When I confronted him about this, he told me that those were just friendly gestures and that it was I whom he loved and cared for. He said he was sorry for hurting me and that he’d make up for it.
I was hopelessly idealistic so even if I got hurt, I readily forgave him. I love him but the past still haunts me. It’s a matter that prevents me from moving on. Yes, we ended up together after six and a half years of an on-and-off relationship. I gave birth to a little princess.
But recently, the “what if” syndrome has caught up with me. I started feeling sorry for myself for not letting other men come into my life, for not letting myself experience the wonder of being in love with someone else. Maybe with other guys, I'd feel more important. Maybe they'd put me on a pedestal to make me feel that I am really worth keeping. Joe, I do not like what I'm feeling right now. I am still trying to convince myself that my husband loves me and that I’m not just a “panakip-butas,” a second choice, just the next best girl for him. Until when will I feel this insecurity? What’s the best thing for me to do now?
Jen
Dear Jen,
It seems to me that you married a man whom you love more than he loves you. This is not unusual. All relationships have a different mix of affection. There is usually one who loves the other slightly more. I don’t see anything wrong with this. What I am worried about are the wishful thoughts that occupy your mind. The fact that you are feeling sorry for yourself and wondering what life could have been had you allowed yourself to love someone else reveals a certain degree of remorse.
A lot of women feel the way you do, Jen. I believe that the best way to lose a woman is to take her for granted and make her feel that she is unimportant and unloved. Unfortunately, a lot of men don’t realize this until it’s almost too late. Jen, you have to understand that it is unhealthy to still think about what life could have been with other men. You have to stop thinking that Vince married you although he still loves his ex girlfriend. We have to remember that marriage closes the door on the past and builds a new life on the present.
The best thing to do now is remove all ill thoughts that make you feel miserable. Focus on your family. You have a beautiful princess to nurture and take care of. Jen, even if you feel like giving up, never tire of showing your husband that you love him. Communication is the key to the success of most marriages. It has been said that unless we can honestly say what we feel, good or bad, to the people we love, we cannot truly say that we are one. Make Vince understand what you are going through. Tell him how you feel. If he loves you, he wouldn’t get mad. He would understand why you feel that way and sincerely do something about it. Give him the chance to prove his love for you and help him show it. Jen, there may be times when we feel like we married the wrong person or we could have had a better life with someone else. But let us always remember that if we had married that person because of love, then the real measure of it would be in our ability to continue to love that person even when we can find no reason to love anymore.
"Wisdom enters not a malicious mind, as well as Love enters not a selfish heart."
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bebe_gurl
Global Moderator
Christmas Island
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Posted - 30/10/2005 : 9:32:18 PM
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ang haba.. saka ko na basahin
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`sparco
Superstar
Canada
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malika
Diamond Star
United Arab Emirates
175 Posts |
Posted - 31/10/2005 : 12:30:21 PM
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kikay ng doha
Diamond Star
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234 Posts |
 Posted - 01/11/2005 : 08:43:52 AM
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tarush!!! wak nmn sana mangyari sakin yun...ako ang masheshare ko lan eto.."I DONT LOVE U JUST BECAUSE I NEED U BUT I NEED U BECAUSE I REALLY LOVE U" naks...awwww 
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GeRbEr4aDuLtS
Superstar
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Posted - 01/11/2005 : 10:19:48 AM
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lupeet!!! parang MILAN... 
"Wisdom enters not a malicious mind, as well as Love enters not a selfish heart."
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bebe_gurl
Global Moderator
Christmas Island
4520 Posts |
Posted - 02/11/2005 : 12:43:31 AM
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sparco, onga at least consistent ako noh.. bka maka2log ako pg binasa ko yan o bka maiyak ako kya wg n lang..
anu b yan, pang pelikula naman mga linya d2..
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boisaudi
Diamond Star
Saudi Arabia
211 Posts |
Posted - 02/11/2005 : 12:11:59 PM
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Love isn’t easy there are troubles
And pains behind all this stay hAppY
fill your hearth with joy and in case you’d fall
sTand up and say
“ I cAn wiN wiTh joy in my Heart, deep deep down in my hearth “
P.U.S.H Pray Until Something Happen |
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GeRbEr4aDuLtS
Superstar
1719 Posts |
Posted - 02/11/2005 : 1:15:04 PM
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"You complete me..."
~Jerry Mcguire
"Wisdom enters not a malicious mind, as well as Love enters not a selfish heart."
~anonymous |
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kikay ng doha
Diamond Star
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 Posted - 02/11/2005 : 1:15:50 PM
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quote:
Originally posted by boisaudi
Love isn’t easy there are troubles
And pains behind all this stay hAppY
fill your hearth with joy and in case you’d fall
sTand up and say
“ I cAn wiN wiTh joy in my Heart, deep deep down in my hearth “
P.U.S.H Pray Until Something Happen
haha nkakatwa,,,alam ko to ahhh commercial to ng joy yun panghugas ng plato....c michael yun kumkanta at sumasayaw..ayus k tlga humirit!!!! bangis mo!!!! ASTEEG
Enjoy life today, yesterday is gone and tomorrow may never come... |
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boisaudi
Diamond Star
Saudi Arabia
211 Posts |
Posted - 02/11/2005 : 2:06:42 PM
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hahaha... alam u pala yun.. huwaaaaaaaa..
P.U.S.H Pray Until Something Happen |
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moncie
Diamond Star
USA
383 Posts |
Posted - 02/11/2005 : 9:47:19 PM
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asan ka naaaaaaaaaaa
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bebe_gurl
Global Moderator
Christmas Island
4520 Posts |
Posted - 05/11/2005 : 12:03:37 AM
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ewan ko sanyo
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